As I begin today’s topic about the wife’s part in making a home, I want to remind you the excerpts that I will be quoting come from a book written in 1882… by a man. However, I have been led to believe that what he writes is true. The world and women’s lib have been an attack on us as women, and instead of providing more freedom for us, they turn us into what we were never meant to be. We need to study the Bible thoroughly and determine what God has laid down for women from the beginning of time.
Today’s excerpt is about a woman’s duty to her husband:
“A true wife gives her husband her fullest confidence. She hides nothing from him. She gives no pledge of secrecy which will seal her lips in his presence. She listens to no words of admiration from others which she may not repeat to him. She expresses to him every feeling, every hope, every desire and yearning, every joy or pain. Then while she utters every confidence in his ear she is most careful to speak in no other ear any word concerning the sacred inner life of her home. Are there little frictions or grievances in the wedded life? Has her husband faults which annoy her or cause her pain? Does he fail in this duty or that? Do differences arise which threaten the peace of the home? In the feeling of disappointment and pain, smarting under a sense of injury, a wife may be strongly tempted to seek sympathy by telling her trials to some intimate friends. Nothing could be more fatal to her own truest interests and to the hope of restored happiness and peace in her home. Grievances complained of outside remain unhealed sores. The wise wife will share her secret of unhappiness with none but her Master (GOD), while she strives in every way that patient love can suggest to remove the causes of discord or trouble.
Love sees much in a wife that other eyes see not. It throws a veil over her blemishes; it transfigures even her plainest features. One of the problems of her wedded life is to retain this charm for her husband’s eyes as long as she lives, to appear lovely to him even when the color has faded from her cheeks and when the music has gone out of her voice.
She will be as careful of her words and acts and her whole bearing toward him as she was before marriage.
She will look well to her personal appearance; no woman can be careless in her dress, slatternly and untidy, and long keep her place on the throne of her husband’s life. she will look well to her inner life. She must have mental attractiveness. She will seek to be clothed in spiritual beauty. Her husband must see in her ever-new loveliness as the years move on. As the charms of physical beauty may fade in the toils and vicissitudes of life, there must be more and more beauty of soul to shine out to replace the attractions that are lost.” (pp. 76-77)
Whew! How hard to live this out as a wife. I think too many of us live our lives like a soap opera. Hollywood is our example of happiness. In the Old Testament, God destroyed people who lived like Hollywood. We need to make sure we are walking God’s path for our lives as women and wives.
Tomorrow covers housekeeping…you know…how your house looks. I welcome comments. I am sure you women have a few to make!:)