I bought this book, Home-Making, years ago, put it on a shelf and forgot about it. I re-discovered it recently and would like to share some of it on this blog as I end my series on Becoming A Homemaker. It was written in 1882 by J.R. Miller (a man), and tells how each person should work to make their home. It covers the roles of husband, wife, and children. Today I am going to share some excerpts from the chapter entitled “The Husband’s Part“.
“There is one word that covers all—the word love. ‘Husbands, love your wives,’ comes the command, with all divine authority, from the Holy Scriptures. The counsel is very short, but it grows exceedingly long when it is fully accepted and observed.” (p. 32)
“Christ gave himself for his church; the husband is to give himself, to deny himself, utterly to forget himself, in simple and wholehearted devotion to his wife. In the true husband who realizes all that this divine command involves, selfishness dies at the marriage altar. He thinks no longer of his own comfort but of his wife’s. He takes the storm himself and shelters her from its blast. He toils to support her. He denies himself that he may bring new pleasures and comforts to her. He counts no sacrifice too great to be made which will bring benefit to her.” (p. 33-34)
“Alas how many never realize the sacredness of the responsibility they so lightly assume! How many fail, too, to keep the holy trust! How many trample with rude feet upon the delicate lives they swore at the altar to defend and cherish till death! How many let selfishness rule instead of love! How many fail to answer the need of the tender hearts they have pledged themselves to fill and satisfy with love! Every husband should understand that when a woman, the woman of his own free and deliberate choice, places her hand in his and thus becomes his wife, she has taken her life, with all its hopes and fears, all its possibilities of joy or sorrow, all its capacity for development, all its tender and sacred interests, and placed it in his hand, and that he is under the most solemn obligations to do all in his power to make that life happy, beautiful, noble and blessed. To do this he must be ready to make any personal sacrifice. Nothing less than this can be implied in loving as Christ loved His church when he gave himself for it.” (pp. 37-38)
I will finish “The Husband’s Part” on Monday, then Tuesday will start “The Wife’s Part“. I will end all these posts with the children’s parts. The language of the book is old-fashioned, but the message is not. I am sure that all the people who believe the Bible is not relevant to us today, will feel this book is not relevant, but I hope you will choose to see past the old-fashioned language.
I hope as everyone celebrates family and all we are thankful for, over the next several days, maybe we can reflect on how to live with each other in such a way, that it makes our family’s lives easier, more enjoyable, and gives us even more to appreciate.